Listener email: '...I also have a medical condition NDPH that causes me pain every day for the last three years. It can be difficult to manage everyday tasks as the more movement I do - the more pain I suffer.   This illness has caused me to gain a lot of weight over time. Honestly the minimum weight I need to lose is 3 stone. I’m aware my weight is an issue and I keep trying to lose it but never succeed. I am a size 18. It’s also causing a strain on my partner as he finds this weight gain difficult to deal with and it consumes his thoughts most of the day every day.  I had a conversation with him recently and he said “if my younger self ever thought you were going to get this big I would’ve been out the door”.  He also feels “is this it for me? is this what I have to put up with?“ My real question is  - is this behaviour of my partner of 24 years normal?  Is it fair for him to feel this way or is it just very shallow?  What do 
Men really feel when their wife/partner gains weight, is it grounds for separation?' Ciara hears from listeners 

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