A mother of three children said schools should stop making children be friends with others who bully them.
Eleanor's three sons were in the one school with her middle son having being diagnosed with autism.
The school rang her up one day to tell her her eldest and youngest son had bullied another pupil.
Eleanor told Lunchtime Live she is well aware of bullying behaviour.
"I was bullied the whole way through school myself and I grew up in a time where you had to shake the hand of your bullier and we were forced to be friends," she said.
"I was going back to college - I'm actually now a lecturer but I was a carer - and I got a phone call saying, 'Your two sons bullied a child in school'.
"I was absolutely horrified".
'They burst into tears'
Eleanor said she rushed to the school and then "ate the head off of them" at home.
"They burst into tears but they said, 'Mom we didn't' - there was a boy who had jumped on my autistic son's back [and] pulled his jumper over his head and had him in a headlock.
"He couldn't breathe and he was screaming; my youngest child ran across the yard and jumped on his back to pull him off.
"The eldest fella came over and they helped get this child [off their brother]."
'How dare you'
Eleanor said she trusts her children who she said were too young to be "plámásing" her.
"I went down to school and I said, 'How dare you' - I fought every inch for every single resource that he had," she said.
"I said, 'How dare you do that to me, you know how difficult a life we have'.
"I am never going to tell [his brothers] not to protect their brother, he is the road of least resistance".
'Unnatural situation'
Eleanor said there needs to be a change of mindset.
"We make victims out of the children that are being bullied but then we make them face the person who did it to them and say, 'You have to be friends with that person'," she said.
"You wouldn't be friends with somebody who doesn't like you.
"So why are we forcing children in an unnatural situation to be buddies with somebody who beat them up?
"I have these debates all the time within the classroom and with teachers... you can't make the victim feel like they deserved to be the victim.
"That's just horrific but it's still kind of the attitude," she added.
Almost 30% of school children in Ireland report having being bullied, according to a 2018 research study from HBSC Ireland.
That figure has increased from 24.3% back in 2010.
