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Listener email: my husband has moved his new partner in and I don’t know what to do

A listener got in touch: 'Hi Ciara, I feel like a prison in my own home.  About two years ago m...

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15.16 7 May 2020


Listener email: my husband has moved his new partner in and I don’t know what to do


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15.16 7 May 2020


A listener got in touch: 'Hi Ciara, I feel like a prison in my own home.  About two years ago my marriage broke down due to my husband constantly cheating on me.   I started to drink more than I would usually do and then every day I’d head to the local after work instead of going home just to numb the pain of a failed married. I'm 40 years of age and we were together for a number of years before we got married. After tying the knot our relationship had changed massively.  He wanted an open relationship. AfirstI was open to the idea but we had rules – the main one being we’d play together only, but that wasn't enough for him. I found out through a friend he was on different hook up apps and had been for a while.  I confronted him & he said it was because he was younger and had a higher sex drive that I couldn't fulfill. It has broken me as a personI now suffer with depression and I’m on medication and my self-esteem is terrible. Then I decided I’d had enough of his crap. I asked him to move out but he refused and said I should leave if I wanted a better life. I owned a house before we got married but he said he didn't feel at home there and wanted us to buy a house together. Like a fool I sold the house and we bought one together. Since lockdown,  hes moved his new partner into our house, as his partner lost his job and could no longer afford his rent, I came home after work one evening about 7 weeks ago to discover suitcases in the hallway and I thought he was moving out. But but this wasn't the case, his partner was moving in, not even a discussion with me! I was told to suck it up. I'm close enough to my family but I'm so ashamed of myself for allowing this to happen, My siblings and other members of my family don't know and don't know how to approach it now! For the last 7 weeks I've lived in my bedroom.  I have to listen to them downstairs laughing and joking, cooking food and doing all the things that couples do. I'm a broken man and it's killing me slowlyI just don't know what to do or how I can turn it around.  I'm afraid to open up about it. Maybe if your listeners could advise.' Ciara chats to listeners

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