This week on So You Think You’re an Adult, one man asked how to tell his girlfriend to stop leaving the door open when she’s on the toilet.
“I’ve been dating my new girlfriend for about two months now, but it is only in the past couple of weeks that we are regularly staying over in each other’s apartments” he told Moncrieff.
“The relationship is developing really well – however, there’s one thing which I’m really struggling with.
“She always leaves the door open when she’s on the toilet.
“At first, I was taken aback by this, but she’s a very free-spirited person and doesn’t even have locks on the two bathrooms in her flat, something that’s so completely strange to me.
“So, I sit on her bed while she uses the ensuite, and I find it so awkward.
“I try putting on Netflix or music to create some sort of a distraction, but she will often engage me in conversation, and it makes it even worse for me.
“Then last week, my worst fear materialised.
“She was taking ages in the bathroom, and it transpired she was having a poo.
“I was kind of horrified, and I haven’t been able to engage in anything intimate since the incident.
“She’s started asking me if everything’s okay; I just don’t know how to get over all this because I just don’t want to lose her.”
Classic style white door. Image: Timofey Lomaev. 26 January 2020TV personality Declan Buckley said that the solution to the issue was quite simple.
“The reality of it is that when it comes to becoming closer to somebody and becoming intimate with somebody, you just get to know a little bit – perhaps sometimes too much – about them,” he said.
“The real issue I can see here is that this new girlfriend is opening the doors – literally and metaphorically – and he’s not ready for the door to be opened yet in any way.
“And [he] may never be, because for a lot of people that’s just, ‘Ah, here!’
“The problem is that he’s not saying anything or doing anything.
“All he really needs to do is [say], ‘Do you mind closing the door?’ It doesn’t have to be a dramatic moment.”
'Close the flipping door!'
Actress Mary McEvoy said she can understand the letter writer’s horror at the situation.
“I think there’s a kind of an elemental form of manners that would make you want to close the door,” she said.
“If there isn’t a door, fair enough, then you have to get on with it.
“But if there’s a flipping door, close the flipping door!”
Main image: Young woman talking by mobile phone on toilet bowl in restroom. Image: Pixel-shot. 19 January 2024
